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Open the door to freedom - allow yourself to feel.

Updated: Jun 26, 2020

Do you fall into the trap of ignoring what you really feel, in place of ‘carrying on’ or to display feelings you think are expected? We have become well practised in ignoring our true feelings (whether from our head, our heart or our gut), and telling ourselves ‘this feeling will pass’. Know that whatever you are feeling right now is completely OK.

Why do we try to lock feelings and thoughts away? It is a combination of things. Often, guilt stands in the way, society tells you should feel differently, a fear of letting others down, worrying what others will think, a lack of self-belief, or not wanting to face the reality of how you really feel as that may lead to having to do something.

But these feelings rarely go away. And when they are ignored, they grow deep inside you, and niggle away. You know they are there but you try to cover them up by distracting yourself and telling yourself they aren’t really real, that you don’t really feel that way and that things will change in time. They eat you up from the inside and manifest themselves in other ways - through frustration, irritation, anger, restlessness, boredom, indecisiveness, comfort eating even.

It is OK to have those thoughts and feelings, whatever they may be. Giving ourselves the permission to feel is so much kinder than blocking out what is really going on. Allow yourself to feel them and to listen with curiosity at what those feelings are.

Listening to how you really feel is kind. It opens up a deeper understanding. It is a doorway to freedom. Today, let yourself be free and feel. Whatever you come up with is OK. And know that you don’t have to do anything with that thought right now. It can simply be.

Gemma Brown Coaching, Cambridge
Gemma Brown Coaching

Gemma Brown is a certified coach working with people to navigate successfully through transitions - be it career, relationships or life in general. Her belief is that when we confidently bring our whole selves to all areas of life, anything is possible. Transitions exist in both our personal and business life, and so often, the two fiercely overlap. Coaching with Gemma focuses on you as a whole, enabling you to identify your strengths, build confidence and to live a life with increased purpose and direction. Gemma is based in Cambridgeshire and carries out face to face coaching in the area as well as 1-2-1 coaching via Skype and Zoom. For more about Gemma, visit her 'About' page or contact her directly.

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