I've recently welcomed a new puppy. To say she’s shaken up my calm, tranquil routine is an understatement. She’s brought variety, challenge, and a few lessons to boot. Starting anything new, or experiencing a shift in your environment can be unsettling. Even if it a change that you sought. Disruption can create a closed mindset and introduce spirals of negative thoughts. Instead, choose to be curious and noticing what you're learning.
Here’s what I’ve learnt so far from my recent disruption:
> A refreshing shake up - I was sitting firmly in my comfort zone. My safe environment, in control of everything, fierce independence. I’ve been edged out of that zone... and I’m surviving. A change is as good as a rest to remind you that that space outside the comfort zone is where you grow. This is where you realise that you’re stronger, braver and more resilient than you thought.
> Love is powerful - I would not get up at 4.30am for many reasons (save jetting off on a lovely holiday in far away climes...). But this cute little face makes it easy. The things we do for those we love is a great motivator.
> Self-care self-care self-care - This is more important than ever (especially in light of the point above which could lead us to neglect our well-being). These practices are vital under pressure to prevent burnout. They may look different. They may be more sporadic. They may be shorter. The duration or length is not the key. The key is that they take place. Non-negotiable. In those moments we build strength, energy and prepare to go again.
> We can’t control everything - Puppies poo. They wee. They bite. They cry. They chew (everything!). We can’t control everything in life, but we can control how we respond. When we’ve given ourselves some self-care moments, we are more likely to remain calm, problem solve, choose a response. We let things go, laugh it off, learn and pivot.
> Team work makes the dream work - We can’t do everything and we don’t have to. Having people around to support you in highs and lows will make the journey more bearable (fun and enjoyable). Not only that, people love to help. Helping others gives the helper a lift.
I’m still learning - approaching this new situation with curiosity and intrigue has sparked a light in me.
Have new events, situations or changes have created an opportunity for you to learn recently?
Gemma Brown is an associate certified coach with the International Coach Federation, working with people to navigate successfully through transitions - be it career, relationships or life in general. Her belief is that when we confidently bring our whole selves to all areas of life, anything is possible. Transitions exist in both our personal and business life, and so often, the two fiercely overlap. Coaching with Gemma focuses on you as a whole, enabling you to identify your strengths, build confidence and to live a life with increased purpose and direction. Gemma is based in Cambridgeshire and carries out face to face coaching in the area as well as 1-2-1 coaching via Skype and Zoom. For more about Gemma, visit her 'About' page or contact her directly.