Have you considered that what you are feeling is grief?
I hadn’t put my feelings down to grieving but hearing Brene Brown's recent podcast on grief and COVID-19 makes a lot of sense. Here are the key things that really resonated with me (definitely worth a listen):
🔸We are all collectively grieving a lot of loss; The loss of our normal lives, of our routines, of touch and embracing friends and family, of meals out, of the freedom to come and go as we please, of our own space, of our daily solitary commute.
🔸It is common to compare losses with others - ‘whose loss is the worst?’. I’ve certainly felt at times that I have no right to feel sad or angry or in pain when there are so many others who are struggling more. We’re all experiencing losses; they are all different. You can’t fully understand the loss someone else is feeling. Yours are valid as much as anyone else's. Naturally children will also be experiencing their own types of loss - the loss of their play dates, and friendships, of their sports teams. Theirs are valid too.
🔸Among the grief, there will be meaning - The meaning in all of this will be very personal to you and your experience. It will be in how you’re adapting, or behaving or what you’re learning about yourself and others that will create change in you.
🔸Find the ‘small wins’ - celebrate these everyday. There will be many - even if it is taking a shower at a time you feel drained of energy. Perhaps you’ve listened to your mind and body and allowed yourself rest - this is a win!
🔸Name the meaningful moments - we’ve lived a life chasing extraordinary moments - the big bangs, the highest of highs, the biggest, the loudest, the most instagrammable. In shifting our perspective we focus on naming the meaningful moments instead. Where are your subtle moments? Possibly the ones you would not have experienced pre-COVID-19; the connections made, the new things you’ve tried, the learning you’ve done with others.
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Gemma Brown is a certified coach working with people to navigate successfully through transitions - be it career, relationships or life in general. Her belief is that when we confidently bring our whole selves to all areas of life, anything is possible. Transitions exist in both our personal and business life, and so often, the two fiercely overlap. Coaching with Gemma focuses on you as a whole, enabling you to identify your strengths, build confidence and to live a life with increased purpose and direction. Gemma is based in Cambridgeshire and carries out face to face coaching in the area as well as 1-2-1 coaching via Skype and Zoom. For more about Gemma, visit her 'About' page or contact her directly.