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Be your own biggest cheerleader

Why is it so hard to shout about our successes?

In a recent group coaching session, I invited participants to reflect on their achievements as a tool to build confidence. The group found it hard to identify things they deemed as success.

I could relate.

I am guilty of brushing successes aside because 'they're not THAT successful', others have done more / bigger / better, 'I'm just doing my job', or feeling arrogant for talking positively about myself. It is easier to talk about the things the have gone wrong, the mistakes we've made or attribute any success to luck.

But recalling past successes (whatever that means to you) is powerful as it brings fulfilment, builds confidence and develops resilience. Identifying successes in your day or week is one thing. Having the environment to share them comes next. And we can all play a role.

> Practice sharing when things have gone well with colleagues, friends and family.

> Encourage others to share their achievements regularly.

> Role model that it's ok to talk about personal success to your team, and those close to you. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

> Make it the 'norm' to share positive things with everyone you come into contact with.

> Help others identify their own successful moments - sometimes we can't see them for ourselves.

I know groups who have a 'private bragging space' on WhatsApp to share positive news with friends or peers - which I love.

So take this as an opportunity to be your own biggest cheerleader, what success have you had recently?


Gemma Brown is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) accredited with the International Coach Federation (ICF). She works with individuals and teams thrive by helping them to elevate their authenticity, purpose and direction. Her belief is that when we confidently bring our whole selves to all areas of life, anything is possible. Transitions exist in both our personal and business life, and so often, the two fiercely overlap. Coaching with Gemma focuses on you as a whole, enabling you to identify your strengths, build confidence and to live a life with increased purpose and direction. Gemma works face to face with clients in the Cambridge area as well as via Zoom. For more about Gemma, visit her 'About' page or contact her directly.

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