Taking a new path or making a change is not easy. What keeps us routed is the safety of knowing. With life as it is, we know what to expect. We can go through the motions with very few surprises. It’s comfortable. It is familiar.
Not only do we know what to expect, those around us do too. We adopt this role in our family structure, in our friendships, in our workplace. People know how to interact with us and what to expect from us.
You (and they) may know yourself as the steady one, the one to rely on, the one who plays it safe. You may know yourself as the <enter job title>, the carer, the protector, the provider, the one who keeps it all together.
We get stuck because we worry how others would be affected if we made a change. “What would they think?”, “What if it went wrong?”, “What if I let them down?”.
But that doesn’t stop us thinking about change…about pining for something else. ”What if….?”.
What if there is more?
What if I can do a job I love?
What if there is a life that brings me joy?
What if there is freedom on the other side?
What if, by making a change, all those around me will benefit too?
What if <enter your desire here>?
The questions that hold us back keep us rooted where we are. But what if you really knew yourself. What if you were so sure of what you needed that you believed in putting those things first? What if you understood what was of fundamental importance that nothing would stand in your way? What if you had created such a connection with yourself that you could reply to those questions of doubt with the confidence to move forward?
What if making the change then didn’t seem so out of reach?
Gemma Brown is a certified coach working with people to navigate successfully through transitions - be it career, relationships or life in general. Her belief is that when we confidently bring our whole selves to all areas of life, anything is possible. Transitions exist in both our personal and business life, and so often, the two fiercely overlap. Coaching with Gemma focuses on you as a whole, enabling you to identify your strengths, build confidence and to live a life with increased purpose and direction. Gemma is based in Cambridgeshire and carries out face to face coaching in the area as well as 1-2-1 coaching via Skype and Zoom. For more about Gemma, visit her 'About' page or contact her directly.