Being authentic creates inner freedom, a sense of ease and an acceptance of all that you are. Hiding our true selves is exhausting, creates conflict and impacts our general well-being.
So how do we bring awareness to those situations where we are living authentically versus those times when we're pretending?
Have you noticed that in certain situations at work you feel fearless, like you could do anything? You exude confidence, you bring your personality and you feel in control. In these situations you don’t think about portraying confidence, it flows naturally. You enjoy these times and thrive in these scenarios.
Yet at other times, you feel awkward, you lack confidence, nerves take over and you question your ability? In these situations you become consumed by trying to ‘act’ confident. These situations tend to create tension and anxiety, and drain your energy. You start to dread them.
This is a reality for many - no matter how knowledgeable, experienced and skilled you are, there are still situations when you feel you have to ‘act’ a part.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
In bringing awareness to these situations, you begin to understand the differences and similarities between them and who you are when you show up. When you understand this, you can then make decisions and choices to bring increased authenticity to those situations.
"We would all thrive if we had the confidence to be our true, authentic selves."
For each situation, ask yourself: > Who am I in this situation? > How do I feel - in my body and in my mind? > How do I behave? > What words would I use to describe myself? > How would others describe me? > What is my role here? What is expected of me? What am I expecting of myself? > What am I assuming about this situation?
Reflect on what you’ve said about yourself for each situation and notice the differences. What would you like to change?
Awareness is key to change. Noticing these subtle differences will help you embrace your true self in all areas of life.
Gemma Brown is an associate certified coach with the International Coach Federation, working with people to navigate successfully through transitions - be it career, relationships or life in general. Her belief is that when we confidently bring our whole selves to all areas of life, anything is possible. Transitions exist in both our personal and business life, and so often, the two fiercely overlap. Coaching with Gemma focuses on you as a whole, enabling you to identify your strengths, build confidence and to live a life with increased purpose and direction. Gemma is based in Cambridgeshire and carries out face to face coaching in the area as well as 1-2-1 coaching via Skype and Zoom. For more about Gemma, visit her 'About' page or contact her directly.