Are you being truthful with yourself about how resilient you are? A lot of people are clearly worried about the well-being of their teams. However, many also fail to recognise that they, themselves, are close to burnout. They feel they have to keep pushing on, but how sustainable is this? If you’re ignoring important signs of your own, will you see the signs in others? Some of the white lies we tell ourselves: I’m fine I’m tired It’s a phase It’s easier if I do it It will look bad if I take a break This will pass I’ve handled more in the past I’ll just get this one thing/project/assignment done I’ll have some time off after... I’m the only one who can… I can’t have time off if my team aren’t As the leader, we tell ourselves we have to be the one to hold it together, to do more, to always be ‘on’, support and protect. When I was going through an intense period of working long hours, my team could tell. It would show up in my interactions and the way I communicated. I would be unable to make decisions and I lacked patience and empathy. My resilience became worn and small issues seemed like mountains to climb. Looking after yourself is not a ‘nice to have’. It is essential to keep going, to improve performance and for good relationships. What lies are you telling yourself?
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Gemma Brown is an associate certified coach with the International Coach Federation, working with people to navigate successfully through transitions - be it career, relationships or life in general. Her belief is that when we confidently bring our whole selves to all areas of life, anything is possible. Transitions exist in both our personal and business life, and so often, the two fiercely overlap. Coaching with Gemma focuses on you as a whole, enabling you to identify your strengths, build confidence and to live a life with increased purpose and direction. Gemma is based in Cambridgeshire and carries out face to face coaching in the area as well as 1-2-1 coaching via Skype and Zoom. For more about Gemma, visit her 'About' page or contact her directly.